Divorce Counseling

The end of a marriage is one of the most stressful events a person can experience. Even for the partner who chooses to leave, divorce is likely to bring up a range of painful and difficult emotions, possibly including grief, guilt, anger, confusion, fear, shame, anxiety, and other intense feelings. If children are involved, the stress level is likely to be even higher. People sometimes seek therapy to help them decide whether to stay in a marriage or leave. Others may seek help making the transition from marriage to being single again. Both these goals can be addressed in individual or couple’s work.

Divorce Psychological Issues and Treatment:

More difficult transitions may lead to a diagnosis of:

  • depression
  • anxiety disorder
  • sleep disorders
  • in some cases, addiction or substance dependency.

People who have a dependent personality disorder may have great difficulty adjust ing to divorce, as may those diagnosed with narcissistic personality. Many people perceive divorce as a personal failure. Therapy can help work through those feelings, make sense of the end of one’s marriage, and obtain a new perspective. Divorce can be an opportunity to grow and become a stronger, wiser person – qualities that will serve us will in future relationships.

Therapy for Divorce
When a marriage ends, it can be emotionally traumatic for each partner. In order to cope with the difficult mental, physical and financial process of uncoupling, an individual may choose to begin therapy. Divorce therapy is usually done on an individual basis. A spouse who is going through a divorce may be facing feelings of guilt, fear, anxiety, depression and grief. Working with a therapist can provide an objective and rational perspective and arm a person with the necessary skills to navigate the choppy waters of the divorce. People who rely on therapy during that difficult time benefit from learning more about themselves and see the life transition as an opportunity for growth and personal development.

Divorce therapy is also available for couples who are in the process of going through a divorce, as a means for working together in a healthy, constructive fashion to achieve the dissolution of the marriage. A divorce therapist acts as a sort of mediator, and sets guidelines to ensure that the divorce is achieved with minimal hostility and emotional damage. Therapists can address pertinent issues, such as living arrangements, financial obligations and parenting responsibilities.

Divorce therapy is critically important for the children experiencing a divorce situation. Because their parents are consumed with their own feelings, they often overlook the devastating emotional state their child is in. Children may feel guilt, loss, pain, abandonment and overwhelming confusion during the divorce. They struggle with loyalty and worry that they are the cause of the divorce. If their parents are aggressive with each other, the child may feel even more fearful or to blame. Parents and children must get help for all of the issues that arise as a result of the divorce in order to process the emotions and move forward in a healthy and constructive way.

Adjusting After a Divorce
Divorce recovery is a process. Adjusting to the changes that occur as a result of a divorce can take time. Working with a therapist can be particularly helpful for people who are struggling with entering this new phase of their lives. Newly divorced people, whether they initiated the divorce or not, recognize that their lives and the lives of those around them have been profoundly affected by their situation. Worries about financial solvency, employment, or housing may affect them. Stress over losing friends or family members as a result of the divorce can be difficult to deal with. Overcoming guilt as a parent of a divorced child is another issue that can cause emotional overwhelm. All of these problems can be worked through during the recovery process. A trained therapist can teach an individual the necessary coping techniques to help them begin their new life with a healthy perspective. Divorce recovery therapy provides an individual with a safe, encouraging and empowering experience during an extremely difficult time.

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4010 Barranca Pkwy, Ste 252 Irvine, CA 92604

(949) 290-6300

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Jason Martin USA
15:51 17 May 19
Tammy has been most helpful. This is my first experience with a professional Councillor / Therapist. I'm already feeling better and still have a long journey ahead, With the help of Tammy I see a brighter future for me going forward. Kind consideration and dignity are only a few of the attributes Tammy has shown. Unfortunately for me I've had to relocate back to the UK, had I been fortunate enough to stay in California I would have continued the therapy sessions with Tammy. I very much doubt the road to mental health is something we can go alone, so please seek professional help from someone as qualified as Tammy
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18:53 16 May 19
Tammy is an exceptional therapist and I highly recommend her for any issues ranging from personal development to marriage counseling. Tammy is kind, very intelligent, understanding, and offers people great solutions to life's problems!
Jaclyn Schlanger
Jaclyn Schlanger
18:03 27 Apr 19
Tammy is one of the most compassionate and caring people I have ever met. She is both professional and personable.  From the moment I met her, her warmth shone through andI could tell how dedicated she is to her clients.  I would recommend her to everyone I know for couples counseling, as her EFT base strategic completely align with the person she is.  She utilizes her intelligence and empathy  to help her clients navigate difficult situations, and her work is truly profound.  I would rate her 5 stars if I could!  One more thing:  her office is beautiful.  The colors and decor are so calming.  Its the perfect place to go to for a therapy session.  Tammy is the best!
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Shirley Wang, MD
00:23 25 Apr 19
At the first and only visit, she told my boyfriend and me that she didn't see why we were together, so he broke up with me. I expected to receive help in learning communication skills for us to determine for ourselves, not to see someone who thinks she the Oracle.
22:47 12 Nov 18
I saw Tammy for a few months and she showed me nothing but compassion and empathy while helping me dissect a couple of childhood issues. Including with my therapy she recommended a couple of really good self-help books that I can use the rest of my life. I will continue to see Tammy and recommend her to anyone who needs guidance for looking into any irrational behavior or stuck trauma. She’s one of the best if not the best therapist I’ve ever been to and I mean that with great sincerity. Thank you Tammy for all your guidance!
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